Flash grave

"I had to bear the pain silently expedition set foot on the road, at the end there is a flash in the grave, I will be buried together with the pain of them."

- Yuan Zhiming "nightmare"

  Red Sea flowing tears to cry shredded thrown Paoxiao the wind, the wind drum bloody desperate to sail to distant ┅ ┅

  It was a sorrowful funeral, not for the dead on the square   they already have a cemetery; is a living person, as is death "Survivor," they need to find a free cemetery, the burial was dead soul, dead ideas, dead passion, dead brilliant, and, dead life ┅ ┅

  not dead in the shell they escorted his coffin from the sea and journeyman, in the darkness of midnight, in the bitter cold wind, in the torrential rain of their burning hatred, despair, burning, burning tears of blood, the burning of the motherland That love is immortal chamber, held for their students a sorrowful funeral ┅ ┅ of

  send the boat when the waves pushed ashore last time, when the foot is far Zhiming beaches in Hong Kong has finally hit the soft patch of earth, when he finally roared to the sky, when free, but burst into tears:

  - "Oh China, what point I am sorry you?!"

  Victor forget that night of sorrow far, even after 6 years, in the bright California sun, he recalled the scene that night to escape the mainland, still with a tone of melancholy that night:

  "fled the country when, hide, are at risk at any time, no tears, time seems to beat their parents in the house, how the pain is at home. Escaped after being shot like a stick of the house, door also "thumping" to look to the lock, and never get back. I was the strongest feeling is that, although by the sky, the earth has lost. "

  "Oh China, which point I am sorry you?!"

  - China's silent, silent sea, the heavens silent but Tisi torrential ┅ ┅

  long song when the cry is given should be in pain after it?

  Oh, no, China, your not entirely unscathed, your children, how can you not weep? China Oh, how lucky you are, actually raising the children of this other fool! China Oh, and you are what, unfortunately, goes as far as they are playing at home!

  China Oh, do not turn away, at least, let conscience quiet for a second it, listen to the talk far Zhiming:

  "fled the mainland, nine death is life, seems like a nightmare, is Needless to say. Even to Paris, and seems to remain. Abjection of the grief has not subsided, and adding a run-down of the recollections.

  When I turned the people all kinds of donated clothes, take a worn; when I lit one by one the number of people sent to the franc, take two stuffed into his pocket; when I hand the first time special approval of the passport people, to Germany, to the United States, to Japan ┅ ┅ Every time, my country Oh, how I think of you, and how much hate you; how strong I am bitter, may be how to tell you!

  how many times out of customs, holding that the refugee passport, my head will be low down, could not bear to watch the human eye. That the eyes, perhaps sympathetic, perhaps doubt, maybe like a, like Tokyo and Guam, because that person will never see this stuff and I set aside. Either the same call me shame, heart General: I am a upright Chinese man!

  Paris, who gave an elegant culture, memory glitz and go away in the old ┅ ┅ But this is Paris, and I ware!

  early wanted to see the colorful and magnificent world, and now met, amazing that none of my business!

  Yes, I sojourn in Paris, dependent world, but this will be with me about it?

  I am proud of it? No! I am a Chinese! I am sentimentally attached to the yellow piece of land, the spring wind, the dirt that fall, summer and winter was brutal, and Han Xiao a group of creatures throughout the year.

  world to me? I am even more jealous of this world!

  China I bad? I miss my Chinese!

  - All things are good, hate is this time; heart has been difficult by the hate of this situation!

  a walk through the streets of Paris, looking at the school owned by a group of children, all dressed fashionable, sounded brilliance, I actually subconsciously exclaimed: is dying!

  a long time, I was rather surprised by his own evil!

  can be poured out these words, not mine, but it suppressed the profound grief:

  We are born unequal, in the face of death, everyone is equal!

  'is dying', God could be so fair! "

- Yuan Zhiming "nightmare"


  France, the home of Venus, Geshao melodious place, Paris refugee camps.


Yuan Zhiming is the motherland   scored a boundary of a slap in the face - confusion of nationality, language disorder, confusion of right and wrong, confusion of life and death. Bundle in a civilized society that magic box of locks all Suobu Zhu devil here - that hidden in the hearts of civilized and savage crimes in fact are the same, just gently pierce a seam, locust-like disaster would impinge upon ┅ ┅

  blue sky as if from a sudden fall into the abyss, death, temptation, rumors, lonely, weak and play the bad cop, good cop and bad cop lunged at him, slicing him day and night, day and night, eating only his ┅ ┅ he never need a pen, but, he needs the gun in here!

  fate, and finally forced him on the "Siwangzhilv."


1989 暮秋.

  cage according to the streets of Paris has a thin cold winter.

  is a bleak and rainy night, far from home in Paris, Victor fell ill.

  empty house only to keep them dripping rain. He lay on thick the night, hear the wind shake casement sad experience, a surge of cold inside the heart of the desolate bone gush from the heart, burned hot flood flooded his body, he felt he was lying naked the snow - the world turned into a cold grave!

  he cried.

  "You know what I wanted you that night?"

┅┅？

  "I wanted a bowl of soup, my grandmother cooked noodles soup that is the white water to boil, and with a few one-sided pieces Shredded ┅ ┅ thrown into the night, I did not eat, really want to Grandma She has been dead for years, but I really want to drink a bowl of the warm noodles soup ┅ ┅ "

  I cry, I thought of the little match girl, she sat alone snowy night, cold, hungry, and the hands of only a box of matches, before she lit a   Oh how lucky she was, At least, she caught hold of the light to get a profit, and profit which brought the light of her warm grip - Grandma is in heaven waiting for her ┅ ┅

  that cold rainy night, far Zhiming the last match had been soaked ┅ ┅


  Paris, please do not mind if I extract the following paragraphs of the text, all this suffering have nothing to do with you, I extract from them only in memory of the tears of an exile. Let people make irresponsible remarks go! China to spit to disdain it! At least, God will not despise a sad exile of the soul.

  Yuan Zhiming -

  day, we went to Montmarte Heights, on the lawn in front of the church, to see those gray dove
Son, then the free, peer-to Mimi old wooden tears to flow ┅ ┅)

  "sunshine, the white of the Sacred Heart church, Yin side of the green lawn, I look forward to a French girl and her shoulders pigeons, so beautiful, so sweet, is so quiet ┅ ┅

  Suddenly, my ears back to the mournful sounds of gunfire calendar, the immediate passing a dead body, a pool of plasma beach, one by one tear face ┅ ┅

  I'm dizzy, heart, screams: my motherland! "

  Su Xiaokang -

  "I dreamily remember: we were at Notre Dame had knelt down together, you play trembling shoulders, a long time in that crawl under the dome, you can not get up ┅ ┅"

  Yuan Zhiming -

  "read your first sentence, I cried. Since that nightmare in the noon, you and I seem to fall from the sky usually appears in front of each other, we drift along in life and death, between heaven and earth.

  together in broad daylight, we fear, also with wailing in the dead of night, with Notre Dame in Paris, where kneeling, and kneeling with the white into the tall, located on high ground of the Sacred Heart Church. That time, I did not notice you are not crying, only knew that he cried incessantly. You to comfort me, and then each bought a cross necklace hanging, hanging on the cross that Jesus Christ is suffering, his wife sent to the Beijing ┅ ┅ "

  - when I read the above paragraphs of text, my heart pours out of the deep bitterness - China Oh, how many bitter tears before pouring your anger get off? How much the tears want to move out before your sufferings set? !

  "in the church, why are you so sad?" I asked far Zhiming.

  "I want my daughter," he lowered his head,

  "in the Sacred Heart church, I saw the Virgin in his arms a baby curly hair, black fat, especially as my daughter. I fled, she was 1 year old, I could not even her Photos are afraid to take, just take a piece of her used bath soap, leaving only a thin piece, I spent the day on the desk, like her, to smell the tiny soap ┅ ┅ saw the curly hair of the baby, I could not kneel down, a bow, tears rushing to flow, how can not stop, like prayer, not even to say a word ┅ ┅ "


  1989 年 12 month Hong Kong "breakthrough," Mr. Li Yi Miscellaneous  published the article "  exile in Paris until his intention to visit Su Xiaokang, far Zhiming", which some like this:

  "work is often frustrated prescription treatment. On the far Zhiming, the FDD into the work is undoubtedly his sense of loss in the political make up the most positive way. However, in view of the reality of the environment, the people array will be the commencement of any work is difficult. "

  Lee made lighter! In fact the people the biggest difficulty faced by array from within, from the people. After a few months, far Zhiming, finds that a mentality wrote:

  "the overseas democracy movement a year ago, I along with the Su Xiaokang and others, from the drafting of the Universal Declaration of Fretilin established to host the" democratic China "miscellaneous , an exile from that intellectuals do in the country of crisis, able to do, but the heart is thus gradually cool down. As Lu Xun year, too much to see in a pool of blood in the counsel of his selfishness, suspicion enthusiastic, vile slander and mutual strife. the face of these people, these things, I have to think more than once stand up and shouted: What are you doing?

┅┅

  As it is generally believed that China would do everything possible to undermine the security of overseas pro-democracy movement, I also believe that the bones of the problems of Chinese exiles, the damage will play a greater role. "

- Yuan Zhiming, "We bones of the problems"

  was driving the chariot tied to the same comrades, who pulled off a tow rope with a partner who had the same dream to find friends, have the same Holding the tears flow through the trouble brothers, in the face of selfish, he did not restraint and beyond "ugly Chinese"   mortal beings than they want to wake up, because they want to transform the fruit seller, more needs to be awakened, to be modified, it is the Chinese elite themselves!


  fate finally brought to life far Zhiming Calvary - he had nothing, leaving only a naked heart, wandering in the rain ┅ ┅

  He fell into the sun - the sun has already Xi Chen; he fell into the moon - the moon had faded; he fell into the storm - only muddy feet. He blows a, sobbed, trembling, holding a naked heart, through the pure cold wind, through the slanting rain, walk through despair, walk through alone, but lost in the life lane in the rain - no help, he saw a rundlet, floating in the rain, reminding us of scenes a warm lilac, and he fell into the umbrella, but missed his heart broken to pieces, the ┅ ┅


  1989 年 10 28, Yuan Zhiming wrote in his diary:

  "Last night, fear and anger me Juequ today, reason and justice, kidnapped me again.

  close the eyes close the eyes among the gods, by Wu Jue call me: Come back, return to your own.

  I was at a loss.

  gods then said: You see the people's cruelty and selfishness, greed and debauchery, you should go to cry out loud for me!

┅┅”


  He souls wandering the streets of Paris in general   no sun, no moon, no wind, no rain, the world was dead, empty space, an illusion, a chaos!

  he entered an art dealer - he did not know what to buy, he does not need to buy anything, he does not want to buy anything. He stopped - Suddenly, reminding us of scenes lightning smoked his body, earth shattering in general, the perception of dead bang pop out from the grave, convulsions, crawl rather, opened his haggard eyes - he saw a picture:

  dark of the night hanging with a flashing cross, hanging above the suffering of Jesus Christ - with open arms, as if to embrace the earth, two nails through the palm been crucified, therefore, to carry a heavy dark bow to the world - the flash of the cross block to the darkness, as if a brilliant Arc de Triomphe stands in the heavens and the earth, so dark the night was jumped back, the earth, emerged a blue ┅ ┅

  surprised him erect, in a mist across Emmanuel, who suddenly finds himself felt. Good Friday he plans to buy four, one sent home, sent a wife, there are two left to its own ┅ ┅


  1990 年 4 28, Victor's father sudden death far, he died of lung cancer, aged 58.

  month later, that bad news is far Zhiming.

  dying father, said his death has nothing to do with the far Zhiming.

  far Zhiming told my sister:

  "you escape, the father holding the radio and two packs of cigarettes a day, bored in the house, smoking, listening to shortwave, but said nothing. You are dead or alive, the father can only find from the short waves that your audio ┅ ┅ days, police officers also searched every few days to the house ┅ ┅ "

  Victor cried the night away, lingering guilt tore him, he knew, his father's death with him, before fleeing when he saw his father one last time, my father did not disease.

  his father placed a sacrifice, not his father's picture, just a Good Friday in Paris, plans to buy, he knelt before the Good Friday plans, point the candle, crying cut, including:

  "tears do not wash the home country resentment, a moving and sad predicament a few worthy! Even though past and present no filial, when there are long days outside song!"

  - as much a ritual of blood and tears these ZM song "sacrifice the parent> poem written on paper, his heart is in fact desperate thin Qiongyin have not heard, but, somewhere, has to the gods He predicted the issue: "When there is a long song day outside!"


To cemetery

  cemetery is still a silence, only the dead will not disturb his heart sinking, hopeless. He quietly walked Beilin, have no desire to read all the sentences have been hot were cold and stiff under the bodhi tree has long been a poet.

  He went to a non-word Beiqian slumped, staring for a long time, and finally write the final inscription:

  "in this civilization, desert, front, only death, death, is hope."

- Yuan Zhiming Paris 1990 "a small yellow flower"

Loss of religious

Any religious people, will be eager to search for religious piety and meet some people to penance, Masquerade, fasting and other methods to show their loyalty and faith seriously. Unfortunately, such religious ethics, who often become a tool for the pursuit of vanity, anti make life lost.

God reprove Israel bias, that they tried to pursue only the appearance of piety and satisfy their vanity, have been lost in their own religion. God requires that they seek is simple, real and love life; is compassion there is need to treat people fairly, to replace the vicious words of gentle words, in recognition of God's goodness in life. This is the way religion should be, to the glory of God to lead his life.

Today, we may not have the people of Israel had done, but the hypocrisy of religion behind them and lost, but also our circumstances today, but way more subtle, more spiritual knowledge of the packaging, so we lost religion more than they are. You have lost the desire to find her from God? Your desire to light up as the morning light?

What is a law of God? How do people destroy this law?

First, the law of God about which the Holy Spirit is our new law.

Second, it is a covenant between God and Israel. Third, this is awarded to the beginning of creation God's law.
Today, we are against all the laws, you can use a few words to summarize: we have to dedicated, and with all the best of Italy, try to Eros, and to be like Jesus loves us, love each other. The apostle Paul said: "who loves has fulfilled the law." (Note: Romans chapter eight.)

We love so there are two objects. First, we want to heart the love of God. Second, we need to love fellow as himself, the law to include all, and with the words of Jesus, is: "these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets of the Master of all truth." (Note: Ma Pacific Gospel twenty-two chapter forty.)

On the other hand, awarded by the Ten Commandments at Mount Sinai, the first four commandments and obedience to God on the fifth commandment is to obey our parents, the other five is our attitude towards others; not grab someone else's wife, do not steal other people's property, no man lie, not murder, do not hurt people. If you treat others the same way it treats its own, if you love their way to love others, you have to follow these commandments out.

So, we finally can make such a conclusion, the law of God is that we should put God first place in life. He wants us to be His children and love and supple. We need to listen to Him, obey Him and His will no matter what, are willing to accept. This is the law of God in the highest state of law of the Spirit is (Note: The Romans VIII two.)

God on Mount Sinai and wrote down the law enacted, there are many statutes on diet and other provisions, but these laws is basically to the people of Israel. The Bible says the law is the future of these shadow of good things to children (Note: Colossians Chapter II sixteen to seventeen), these achievements to the law in Christ. Christ into us, then we will live out the law to achieve justice. The Spirit of Christ in us, we naturally able to comply with the law.

You can see in the world, the law is basically bad behavior in order to limit the people who, for example: traffic lights, pollution control, punishing murder, kidnapping, theft, fraud, and other evil laws, but With people who love to act, the law exists it is not - there is no law will be bound him, or let him bear the burden, because they can both natural and voluntary implementation of all the law through the Holy Spirit to the public defined requirements.

Since these laws are based on love, when we can not love God or harm to others, we are undermining the law of God. We hurt others - such as theft, adultery, murder, or bear false witness - often from within us, so the law of God with another one of these "not covet your neighbor" of the ban - which is a Item spiritual sin. Jesus said that the idea of a greedy behavior is tantamount to committing adultery, and anger with insulting arrogance if it is equivalent to committing the crimes of murder (Note: Matthew chapters twenty-one to twenty-eight).

Imagine

Dinner in the spring, we teach the young people with light, foam and other materials in the hall into something they thought heaven looks like. These creative young people to use their imagination, "Construction of heaven."

Dinner's theme is "I can only imagine" is from the "pity me" this Christian band's songs are inspired. Our daughter Melissa is responsible for decorating the house church. When I went to see the process of decorating them, she was hanging on the ceiling of stars. Dinner that night, my wife and I heard Melissa's friends singing the theme song, "I can only imagine," reminds us of that distant place ─ ─ heaven.

Of course, we never imagined after only six weeks, Melissa really gone to heaven. Can only imagine what was on the instant, has become a reality.

Jesus talked about heaven, the purpose is for us to be troubled. He said: "Do not your heart be troubled. You believe in God, believe also in me." (John14Chapter1-2Section)

Jesus has prepared for His believers a good place, full of can not imagine there's goodness, light and majesty. There, God watch over all the faithful, one day we will go there. Imagine heaven looks like, let's heart is joy!

Hates his brother is in darkness

Although today's world of advanced technology, more universal education, but humanity can not escape the fact that living in the dark, people are full of hate each other, the world has become more terrible.

Human salvation in Jesus only in order to extricate themselves from the hatred. John tied the darkness and hatred, so that we can see the essence of evil, and he pointed out that the only true light of Christ shine before the dark drive to go. Jesus, the true light is love, there is love there is no hate, the two are not mutually exclusive, so a person with the love of Jesus, we can not hate brothers.

You may also feel some of today's brother, is that you do not want to accept him, do not want to love him, even unwilling to forgive him. There may be significant, including the hearts of the contradictions and struggles, which means that your life has been the lack of God's love. When life is not changed by the love of God, that life is still in the dark, there is hate.

How can I break this drought? Just open your heart, let God love the light illumination, so that you can rekindle the light of life, out of the shadows in the light so that you can accept, forgive, love your brother.

Do not let yourself live in the darkness of hate.

Rest is for the walk longer distances

〖I. Introduction〗

A pastor opened the car for several hours to the mountains vacation cabins, for the three-day holiday, he was filled with hope; to the destination, but only after all the intention that the information and books to read at home, or even Even the Bible did not take. After a while the inner fighting, and finally decided to stay, forget to bring the book to force him to change plans, but finally found his new plan is needed most - a real rest. Angel of the Lord rely under all difficulties of the prophet Elijah said: "Get up and eat! Because your journey is still far away." (Kings 19:7), rest is to walk longer distances, so the rest is to serve God .

〖Second, the value of rest〗

According to the Ten Commandments in the fourth commandment, the Sabbath is also a man of God: "Remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy. Six days you shall labor and do all your work, but the seventh day is the Lord your God Sabbath. The day you and your children, male and female slaves, livestock, and your stranger strangers in town, not for any work items, in six days the LORD made heaven and earth, the sea and one of the things, the seventh day he rested. Therefore the Lord blessed the Sabbath day and made it holy. "that is, God blessed the Sabbath, so one side can remember God on the one hand people a break. What is the value that a rest:

1. Help me renew their strength
Get physical rest is not difficult, really lacking is the emotional and spiritual rest. Can holiday like crop fields as to play a greater function, people need to rest, in exchange for the fruit of change, change into the energy of life.

2. See the goal again
Weekly consumption of our heavy work is not only a lot of energy, and make our vision becomes narrow and short-sighted, while forgetting the immediate value is only a remote target. Temporarily leave the rest to work allows us to see the goal again.

3. The confidence and ability to surge
One pastor's sermons has long been criticized when, in order to improve the quality of preaching, he decided to take two weeks off school to seminary in terms of road class. Class, the professor asked students to write the contents of sermons first few minutes, and came down to talk. The country's best listened to his sermons preaching professor said: "I'm sure you must be a very good speaker." After the pastor had certainly made him rebuild self-confidence, which is suspended from work benefits.

4. Serve warm Update
Carefully planning the rest, even a short time, but also help us to pressure from the monotonous routine to get relief.


〖Three signs〗 need rest

We can not wait until the holidays when exhausted, and the physical fatigue is not the only signal I need a rest, we need to monitor their own pace of life in order to arrange vacations and retreats. The following symptoms signal is the need to rest:

1. Slow
When I no longer feel the feelings of others and the associated signals, as well as other people's needs and expectations of my no longer responsive, that I need to change the forward speed of the sign.

2. Rambling thoughts
When my thoughts become slow, and no more inspiration and creativity, and even favorite activities has always been down-hearted, and sometimes even the general's remarks do not want to participate, that is the rest of the signal.


〖Fourth, adjust the attitude of the rest〗

Temporarily leave the work is not too simple, but is difficult to avoid.

1. Treatment of guilt
Most of the work ethic of people a strong sense of being away from work, they all suffer guilt Mokenaihe of escape. In fact, a way can be used to disperse such guilt, that is: to remind ourselves of how hard work normally, but God is not only allowed, it is ordered people to be on time to rest.

2. The handling of major emergencies
Not in the workplace, the occasional major emergency will happen, however, need to deal with this emergency a little creative, flexible arrangements often have unexpected results.

3. Rest before and after adaptation
Extra work before and after leaving the job is used to prevent problems and errors in the only way, but if they can put aside their work and have a good rest and return to work after a period of adjustment often required to step on the right track, but a return to normal until the pace of work, the rest of the results will be slowly revealed.

〖Fifth, use of rest〗

Comparison of advance planning to achieve the purpose of rest, using vacation patterns and arrangements as follows:

1. Read off
Is the life of all ages can continue to grow the factors, it can be arranged each year in the undisturbed areas (such as rent apartment two weeks), with no fixed work schedule, to enjoy the pleasure of reading.

2. Spiritual Update
Every 3-4 months to arrange a time for spiritual reflection: my family and personal life situation? Serve their own feelings about? The next step in the direction of thinking and the decision must be made. To make this spiritual update to maximize the function of the time, temporarily left the cumbersome routine environment is very important.

3. Arrangements Holidays
Engaged in activities to feel happy is the main objective of vacation, and as children grow, change of lifestyle and pace, leave the way when the adjustment. Arrangements may include sailing holiday, collecting art, beach camping, and even see their parents living overseas.

4. Family life
Some say: Love the composition contains, half belong to history, the other half belongs to intuition, happy family life, covering all of the above. So arrangements can be with the family holiday festivals, such as grandparents birthday. In addition to other holidays, but also try to take advantage of special meetings or to participate in a meeting of it, the way to enjoy leisure and family fun.

Women's fragrance bloom

We talked about modern man's spiritual world, as we need to understand that a woman's needs. Women 's self-awareness and the need to grow, how her family was able to play the role of wife and mother .

We often said, must first take care of their own mother , mother If happy , then the whole family happy. The role of Mother in the family is very important, the role of her mother decided the family atmosphere. If the women aware of their emotions, know that they can continue to grow , adapt themselves , it is a very important thing. Because women have many strengths , these strengths if we can really play out of her , women also feel that her life will not just kids , cooking and cooking it. In fact, God created woman, this woman is really to bring a lot of the joy of the family , not only do these services only. Therefore, the role of women to value their own , or be able to know how to make themselves more to be happy , better able to know that God put you on the family at the social environment inside , in the end what to do, do you really just cook three meals a day ? Many women will have such confusion.

Today, many women and traditional women do not like women in general have the opportunity to education , women in general have the opportunity to work in society , women and men pay the same. Women also go out to work during the day , and then came home at night tired , but also cook the food . So today 's man, especially the need for more understanding of his wife , sharing of family responsibilities with whatever . Women in This society have a look , and look forward women to be wives and mothers . So women will continue to think I need to how to take care of others , how to take care of my husband , my children , but they forgot to take care of ourselves, they are not very familiar with. Now many women are a lot of education, but who is cooking at home , who cook , who care for their children , or women. Mr. many times over there, if so do not pull its weight , but also that it seems to be the bounden duty of women , women have continued to pay, did not accept. Just like our car , the lamp has been lit , and finally the whole of the battery to run out of power , the results of exhausted, walk.

Housewives at home , or even if women have the opportunity to go to work , mental depression is much higher than men . Men in the workplace is to face a lot of pressure on the responsibility of the family is responsible for the relatively small , and this is because the traditional concept of influence. Like most of the parents is now School mother sister will be so if only the mother will be involved in their children 's growth. As a father has no such expectations is the father to go in , as if the whole social environment, expectations that women should be responsible. In fact, God has a special duty to the women of God to pregnant women , children, women are more careful and considerate care of the children well, women are more friendly , social activities, it seems that women do better. Women have some special place, as if in the care of the family , especially in the care of the children seemed to have something different on , does not mean that men do not need to participate .

Speaking as a woman under pressure greater pressure than men . Because she has to face the dual pressures of work and family , she wanted her husband to share with her such pressure ? In fact, women need to learn how to better and her family , her husband, her children how to communicate. Many women have a lot of hats, what is the good wife and mother should have swept all the family things, all things belong to the child should pack. But it is not , should be invited , invited children together. Lot of work will be very guilty about his wife back home , the children do not take good care of the day regarded him in a nanny there, and then be able to see other people with children at home , she felt very envious of , my heart feel very sad . Mr. then we ask to see such things will not go home feeling that men do not have this feeling that he felt was his duty to work . Women in this kind of a double under the expectations of the extent of the confusion .

Relationships are the focus of a great woman , in fact, a woman should not put all her focus has been on her husband and children, in fact, God has given women a lot of potential and talent, Then how can the extent permitted Their potential To play out? This woman will be more cheerful and happier . The role of women are not the only one to take care of the family , the family is very important to take care of things , but in addition to families, as there is little if anything to do, often have been depressed , has been paid , no returns, did not think What are their needs, not take care of yourself . Sometimes to exhaustion, and some people will simply hide alcohol inside, some people watch soap operas on , or there are too many activities to fill their full , but did not think they have a need.