Can NATO Modernize Before It Becomes Obsolete?

The North Atlantic Treaty Organization (NATO) brands itself as the most successful military alliance in history, a bulwark of freedom and democracy for 61 years, and the coalition that won the Cold War without firing a single shot. But while the end of the Cold War made our world safer, it also made it more complex. Today, as sources of danger have diversified — from terrorism and piracy to cyberwarfare — NATO has been left looking flatfooted and ill-equipped to cope. More than two decades after the fall of the Berlin Wall, the alliance risks being seen as a relic. cheap ugg boots 2010

Which is why it is planning a reboot. At a summit in Lisbon on Nov. 19-20, Barack Obama will join the other leaders of the 28-nation alliance to agree on a new NATO mission statement that aims to reaffirm their core commitment to collective defense. Together they will usher in a new era with a 10-year "strategic concept" setting forth how NATO will tackle today's many challenges. They will agree on a leaner alliance — achieved by dismantling at least four of its 11 command bases — while modernizing weapons defense. And, in a sign of the new times, NATO allies are moving toward approving an anti-missile system, and they want Russia to join in creating such a shield.
(See pictures of Russia celebrating Victory Day.)

The aim, as NATO Secretary-General Anders Fogh Rasmussen told Germany's Parliament last month, is to build "an alliance able to defend its members against modern threats, an alliance capable of managing even the most challenging crises." In practical terms, according to Rob de Wijk, a member of the Atlantic Council's Strategic Advisors Group, it means redefining NATO's underlying objectives, geographic reach and the military mechanisms. "The shift in emphasis from protecting territory to defending strategic interests requires NATO to transform the [territorial] armed forces of all member states into deployable armed forces, remove obstacles for risky 'away' operations and forge a new understanding of solidarity," de Wijk says.

The imperative to reform reflects the momentous changes in Europe and the world. Founded in 1949, NATO was initially a traditional alliance that ensured the collective defense of 15 nations against the threat of Soviet aggression. After the collapse of the Soviet Union, NATO embraced many of the East European countries that were once harnessed to Moscow's yoke, and finally got to fight, in Bosnia and Kosovo. australia ugg boots 2010
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But despite these milestones, NATO has struggled to adapt to the post–Cold War era. Article 5 of the North Atlantic Treaty, committing each member state to consider an attack against one state as an attack against all, was invoked for the first time after Sept. 11. That led to Afghanistan, a massive operation that has placed a huge strain on the alliance and fueled tensions on whether its future focus should be on distant missions or closer to home.

Earlier this year, a specially commissioned panel of experts called on NATO to become more versatile and efficient to cope with modern challenges including terrorism, cybercrime, and the proliferation of weapons of mass destruction. The panel, led by former U.S. Secretary of State Madeleine Albright, also said it must be better at communicating its achievements, or risk losing public support.

But as well as new security threats, NATO has had to cope with the new timidity of European nations when it comes to putting troops on the line, as the war in Afghanistan has revealed. Daniel Keohane, a senior research fellow at the E.U. Institute for Security Studies in Brussels, says Europe's public support is falling in part thanks to the draining Afghanistan campaign and the unpopular Iraq war. "Many Europeans no longer want to follow the U.S. on military operations if their core security interest is unclear or if they think they have little say over strategy," he says. That is mirrored in dwindling defense spending. Even with their Afghan commitments, total defense spending among NATO's European members fell from $311 billion in 2001 to $272 billion in 2009.
(See pictures of Afghanistan's dangerous Korengal Valley.)

In March, Rasmussen, a former Danish Prime Minister, cautioned that Europeans could not take the transatlantic alliance with the U.S. for granted. He said the E.U., which moved to establish a stronger defense and security policy under last year's Lisbon treaty, "will remain a paper tiger if it is not followed up by concrete contributions when we need concrete military contributions." cheap Moncler

U.S. Defense Secretary Robert Gates has regularly warned about the "demilitarization" of Europe. "My worry is that the more our allies cut their capabilities, the more people will look to the United States to cover whatever gaps are created," Gates said in Brussels last month.

At the same time, as the U.S. looks to Iran, the Middle East and the rise of China, "it has ceased to be full-time European power," says Mark Leonard, co-author of "The Spectre of a Multipolar Europe," a report published last month by the European Council on Foreign Relations. "Washington sees Europe as essentially 'fixed,' and thinks it is time for Europeans to step up to provide their own security."

Despite these existential questions, NATO has never been busier. There are some 120,000 international troops attached to the NATO-led International Security Assistance Force. NATO troops only left Bosnia in 2004, and they still turn out together for peacekeeping duty in Kosovo. And last year, NATO warships mounted anti-piracy patrols off Somalia.
(See pictures of Somali pirates.)

But all that might still not be enough. The question for Obama and the other leaders gathering in Lisbon will be whether they really mean what they say in their invigorating new mission statement or whether these recent NATO operations represent the last twitches of an ambivalent alliance. moncler jackets on sale

Maynier chucked out of the House

Maynier, who has been on a crusade to force the defence minister to release explosive reports on morale in the military, was asked to leave the house after he refused to withdraw a remark in which he accused Sisulu of "telling a big political fib to parliament" over what is contained in the reports.nike air max 95 on sale

The two reports were compiled by the interim national defence force service commission, which Sisulu appointed last year to advise her on service conditions.

Maynier has been using the daily slot allocated to MPs to make statements on any issue, to quote from one of the reports - which he has in his possession.

Maynier yesterday quoted a paragraph from the report, which he said proved that the minister's assertion was a lie, referring to her contention that parliament cannot force her to release the defence reports as they have nothing to do with legislation currently before the defence portfolio committee .

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Deputy Education Minister Enver Surty immediately took offence, requesting the Speaker to force Maynier to withdraw the remark as unparliamentary.

Speaker Max Sisulu then asked Maynier to withdraw the remark, saying he had failed to substantiate it. But the DA MP refused to comply with the Speaker's instruction.

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The DA stood by its man, however, saying it was the defence minister and not Maynier that needed to be rebuked by the house.

Maynier is not new to controversy. He crossed swords with ANC MPs last year after brandishing documents which he said proved the country had entered into arms deals with rogue states, some of them under UN sanctions.
Maseko spanks Northern Cape Youth League
"I'm reminded of a comment made by Plato in a book called The Republic. He said the worst thing anybody can do is to express a very strong opinion on something you know very little about," he told a media briefing on Wednesday's Cabinet meeting.

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The league's Northern Cape branch on Monday called Simelane a "rented dog of a political conspiracy" following the arrest of provincial ANC leader John Block on fraud charges. ANC spokesman Jackson Mthembu subsequently demanded the league apologise to Simelane.

But Northern Cape league chairman Shadrack Tlhaole refused, telling supporters after Block's court appearance on Wednesday: "The ANCYL is standing by its decision and will not apologise to anyone when we defend John Block".

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U2 ticket sales smash SA record

Sales for the 22-time Grammy award-winning band, who are expected to perform their 360 Degrees tour in South Africa on February 13 in Johannesburg and 18 in Cape Town, started on Saturday. By yesterday, 114000 tickets had been sold. newest moncler 2010

Concert promoters Big Concerts' financial officer Justin van Wyk told The Times that "U2's tickets sales smashed the record that UK singer Robbie Williams held at 98000 from November 2005."

"This is the biggest event since the World Cup happened in our country and we are doing our best to make sure that everyone has their best experience of the show," he said.

This will be U2's second stop in South Africa, which will be very different from their last, as it will cost about R90-million to organise, including costs for transportation of the 200 crew members and the special stage to be shipped into the country.
Lee-Ann tweets: 'It's a girl'
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The 27-year-old model wasted no time in telling her 8262 followers on social networking website Twitter when she updated her status at 11am, saying: "It's a girl."

Liebenberg also wrote: "My beautiful, perfect and healthy daughter was born this morning. Wow, I'm lost for words, wow wow wow."

The couple got engaged at the Rambagh Palace, in Jaipur, India, earlier this year.

The former Sports Illustrated swimsuit model is said to have taken time off work to be a mother and will return to work early next year.

Van der Walt, 30, decided to give up the dangerous sport of polo in anticipation of becoming a father.

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De Haan in hot water

Ajax Cape Town have landed in hot water as coach Foppe de Haan and four players will appear before the Premier Soccer League (PSL) disciplinary committee.

Hans Vonk, Brett Evans, Nazeer Allie, Sameehg Doutie and the Dutch mentor face charges of unsporting behaviour, using abusive language towards the referee and assistant referee as well as bringing the league into disrepute.moncler coats

This follows an incident that occurred in a PSL match between the Urban Warriors and Santos on 15 October at the Cape Town Stadium.

The People's Team were awarded a penalty in the Cape derby as Evans was adjudged to have pulled down Romano Scott in the box during injury time.

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Flash grave

"I had to bear the pain silently expedition set foot on the road, at the end there is a flash in the grave, I will be buried together with the pain of them."

- Yuan Zhiming "nightmare"

  Red Sea flowing tears to cry shredded thrown Paoxiao the wind, the wind drum bloody desperate to sail to distant ┅ ┅

  It was a sorrowful funeral, not for the dead on the square   they already have a cemetery; is a living person, as is death "Survivor," they need to find a free cemetery, the burial was dead soul, dead ideas, dead passion, dead brilliant, and, dead life ┅ ┅

  not dead in the shell they escorted his coffin from the sea and journeyman, in the darkness of midnight, in the bitter cold wind, in the torrential rain of their burning hatred, despair, burning, burning tears of blood, the burning of the motherland That love is immortal chamber, held for their students a sorrowful funeral ┅ ┅ of

  send the boat when the waves pushed ashore last time, when the foot is far Zhiming beaches in Hong Kong has finally hit the soft patch of earth, when he finally roared to the sky, when free, but burst into tears:

  - "Oh China, what point I am sorry you?!"

  Victor forget that night of sorrow far, even after 6 years, in the bright California sun, he recalled the scene that night to escape the mainland, still with a tone of melancholy that night:

  "fled the country when, hide, are at risk at any time, no tears, time seems to beat their parents in the house, how the pain is at home. Escaped after being shot like a stick of the house, door also "thumping" to look to the lock, and never get back. I was the strongest feeling is that, although by the sky, the earth has lost. "

  "Oh China, which point I am sorry you?!"

  - China's silent, silent sea, the heavens silent but Tisi torrential ┅ ┅

  long song when the cry is given should be in pain after it?

  Oh, no, China, your not entirely unscathed, your children, how can you not weep? China Oh, how lucky you are, actually raising the children of this other fool! China Oh, and you are what, unfortunately, goes as far as they are playing at home!

  China Oh, do not turn away, at least, let conscience quiet for a second it, listen to the talk far Zhiming:

  "fled the mainland, nine death is life, seems like a nightmare, is Needless to say. Even to Paris, and seems to remain. Abjection of the grief has not subsided, and adding a run-down of the recollections.

  When I turned the people all kinds of donated clothes, take a worn; when I lit one by one the number of people sent to the franc, take two stuffed into his pocket; when I hand the first time special approval of the passport people, to Germany, to the United States, to Japan ┅ ┅ Every time, my country Oh, how I think of you, and how much hate you; how strong I am bitter, may be how to tell you!

  how many times out of customs, holding that the refugee passport, my head will be low down, could not bear to watch the human eye. That the eyes, perhaps sympathetic, perhaps doubt, maybe like a, like Tokyo and Guam, because that person will never see this stuff and I set aside. Either the same call me shame, heart General: I am a upright Chinese man!

  Paris, who gave an elegant culture, memory glitz and go away in the old ┅ ┅ But this is Paris, and I ware!

  early wanted to see the colorful and magnificent world, and now met, amazing that none of my business!

  Yes, I sojourn in Paris, dependent world, but this will be with me about it?

  I am proud of it? No! I am a Chinese! I am sentimentally attached to the yellow piece of land, the spring wind, the dirt that fall, summer and winter was brutal, and Han Xiao a group of creatures throughout the year.

  world to me? I am even more jealous of this world!

  China I bad? I miss my Chinese!

  - All things are good, hate is this time; heart has been difficult by the hate of this situation!

  a walk through the streets of Paris, looking at the school owned by a group of children, all dressed fashionable, sounded brilliance, I actually subconsciously exclaimed: is dying!

  a long time, I was rather surprised by his own evil!

  can be poured out these words, not mine, but it suppressed the profound grief:

  We are born unequal, in the face of death, everyone is equal!

  'is dying', God could be so fair! "

- Yuan Zhiming "nightmare"


  France, the home of Venus, Geshao melodious place, Paris refugee camps.


Yuan Zhiming is the motherland   scored a boundary of a slap in the face - confusion of nationality, language disorder, confusion of right and wrong, confusion of life and death. Bundle in a civilized society that magic box of locks all Suobu Zhu devil here - that hidden in the hearts of civilized and savage crimes in fact are the same, just gently pierce a seam, locust-like disaster would impinge upon ┅ ┅

  blue sky as if from a sudden fall into the abyss, death, temptation, rumors, lonely, weak and play the bad cop, good cop and bad cop lunged at him, slicing him day and night, day and night, eating only his ┅ ┅ he never need a pen, but, he needs the gun in here!

  fate, and finally forced him on the "Siwangzhilv."


1989 暮秋.

  cage according to the streets of Paris has a thin cold winter.

  is a bleak and rainy night, far from home in Paris, Victor fell ill.

  empty house only to keep them dripping rain. He lay on thick the night, hear the wind shake casement sad experience, a surge of cold inside the heart of the desolate bone gush from the heart, burned hot flood flooded his body, he felt he was lying naked the snow - the world turned into a cold grave!

  he cried.

  "You know what I wanted you that night?"

┅┅？

  "I wanted a bowl of soup, my grandmother cooked noodles soup that is the white water to boil, and with a few one-sided pieces Shredded ┅ ┅ thrown into the night, I did not eat, really want to Grandma She has been dead for years, but I really want to drink a bowl of the warm noodles soup ┅ ┅ "

  I cry, I thought of the little match girl, she sat alone snowy night, cold, hungry, and the hands of only a box of matches, before she lit a   Oh how lucky she was, At least, she caught hold of the light to get a profit, and profit which brought the light of her warm grip - Grandma is in heaven waiting for her ┅ ┅

  that cold rainy night, far Zhiming the last match had been soaked ┅ ┅


  Paris, please do not mind if I extract the following paragraphs of the text, all this suffering have nothing to do with you, I extract from them only in memory of the tears of an exile. Let people make irresponsible remarks go! China to spit to disdain it! At least, God will not despise a sad exile of the soul.

  Yuan Zhiming -

  day, we went to Montmarte Heights, on the lawn in front of the church, to see those gray dove
Son, then the free, peer-to Mimi old wooden tears to flow ┅ ┅)

  "sunshine, the white of the Sacred Heart church, Yin side of the green lawn, I look forward to a French girl and her shoulders pigeons, so beautiful, so sweet, is so quiet ┅ ┅

  Suddenly, my ears back to the mournful sounds of gunfire calendar, the immediate passing a dead body, a pool of plasma beach, one by one tear face ┅ ┅

  I'm dizzy, heart, screams: my motherland! "

  Su Xiaokang -

  "I dreamily remember: we were at Notre Dame had knelt down together, you play trembling shoulders, a long time in that crawl under the dome, you can not get up ┅ ┅"

  Yuan Zhiming -

  "read your first sentence, I cried. Since that nightmare in the noon, you and I seem to fall from the sky usually appears in front of each other, we drift along in life and death, between heaven and earth.

  together in broad daylight, we fear, also with wailing in the dead of night, with Notre Dame in Paris, where kneeling, and kneeling with the white into the tall, located on high ground of the Sacred Heart Church. That time, I did not notice you are not crying, only knew that he cried incessantly. You to comfort me, and then each bought a cross necklace hanging, hanging on the cross that Jesus Christ is suffering, his wife sent to the Beijing ┅ ┅ "

  - when I read the above paragraphs of text, my heart pours out of the deep bitterness - China Oh, how many bitter tears before pouring your anger get off? How much the tears want to move out before your sufferings set? !

  "in the church, why are you so sad?" I asked far Zhiming.

  "I want my daughter," he lowered his head,

  "in the Sacred Heart church, I saw the Virgin in his arms a baby curly hair, black fat, especially as my daughter. I fled, she was 1 year old, I could not even her Photos are afraid to take, just take a piece of her used bath soap, leaving only a thin piece, I spent the day on the desk, like her, to smell the tiny soap ┅ ┅ saw the curly hair of the baby, I could not kneel down, a bow, tears rushing to flow, how can not stop, like prayer, not even to say a word ┅ ┅ "


  1989 年 12 month Hong Kong "breakthrough," Mr. Li Yi Miscellaneous  published the article "  exile in Paris until his intention to visit Su Xiaokang, far Zhiming", which some like this:

  "work is often frustrated prescription treatment. On the far Zhiming, the FDD into the work is undoubtedly his sense of loss in the political make up the most positive way. However, in view of the reality of the environment, the people array will be the commencement of any work is difficult. "

  Lee made lighter! In fact the people the biggest difficulty faced by array from within, from the people. After a few months, far Zhiming, finds that a mentality wrote:

  "the overseas democracy movement a year ago, I along with the Su Xiaokang and others, from the drafting of the Universal Declaration of Fretilin established to host the" democratic China "miscellaneous , an exile from that intellectuals do in the country of crisis, able to do, but the heart is thus gradually cool down. As Lu Xun year, too much to see in a pool of blood in the counsel of his selfishness, suspicion enthusiastic, vile slander and mutual strife. the face of these people, these things, I have to think more than once stand up and shouted: What are you doing?

┅┅

  As it is generally believed that China would do everything possible to undermine the security of overseas pro-democracy movement, I also believe that the bones of the problems of Chinese exiles, the damage will play a greater role. "

- Yuan Zhiming, "We bones of the problems"

  was driving the chariot tied to the same comrades, who pulled off a tow rope with a partner who had the same dream to find friends, have the same Holding the tears flow through the trouble brothers, in the face of selfish, he did not restraint and beyond "ugly Chinese"   mortal beings than they want to wake up, because they want to transform the fruit seller, more needs to be awakened, to be modified, it is the Chinese elite themselves!


  fate finally brought to life far Zhiming Calvary - he had nothing, leaving only a naked heart, wandering in the rain ┅ ┅

  He fell into the sun - the sun has already Xi Chen; he fell into the moon - the moon had faded; he fell into the storm - only muddy feet. He blows a, sobbed, trembling, holding a naked heart, through the pure cold wind, through the slanting rain, walk through despair, walk through alone, but lost in the life lane in the rain - no help, he saw a rundlet, floating in the rain, reminding us of scenes a warm lilac, and he fell into the umbrella, but missed his heart broken to pieces, the ┅ ┅


  1989 年 10 28, Yuan Zhiming wrote in his diary:

  "Last night, fear and anger me Juequ today, reason and justice, kidnapped me again.

  close the eyes close the eyes among the gods, by Wu Jue call me: Come back, return to your own.

  I was at a loss.

  gods then said: You see the people's cruelty and selfishness, greed and debauchery, you should go to cry out loud for me!

┅┅”


  He souls wandering the streets of Paris in general   no sun, no moon, no wind, no rain, the world was dead, empty space, an illusion, a chaos!

  he entered an art dealer - he did not know what to buy, he does not need to buy anything, he does not want to buy anything. He stopped - Suddenly, reminding us of scenes lightning smoked his body, earth shattering in general, the perception of dead bang pop out from the grave, convulsions, crawl rather, opened his haggard eyes - he saw a picture:

  dark of the night hanging with a flashing cross, hanging above the suffering of Jesus Christ - with open arms, as if to embrace the earth, two nails through the palm been crucified, therefore, to carry a heavy dark bow to the world - the flash of the cross block to the darkness, as if a brilliant Arc de Triomphe stands in the heavens and the earth, so dark the night was jumped back, the earth, emerged a blue ┅ ┅

  surprised him erect, in a mist across Emmanuel, who suddenly finds himself felt. Good Friday he plans to buy four, one sent home, sent a wife, there are two left to its own ┅ ┅


  1990 年 4 28, Victor's father sudden death far, he died of lung cancer, aged 58.

  month later, that bad news is far Zhiming.

  dying father, said his death has nothing to do with the far Zhiming.

  far Zhiming told my sister:

  "you escape, the father holding the radio and two packs of cigarettes a day, bored in the house, smoking, listening to shortwave, but said nothing. You are dead or alive, the father can only find from the short waves that your audio ┅ ┅ days, police officers also searched every few days to the house ┅ ┅ "

  Victor cried the night away, lingering guilt tore him, he knew, his father's death with him, before fleeing when he saw his father one last time, my father did not disease.

  his father placed a sacrifice, not his father's picture, just a Good Friday in Paris, plans to buy, he knelt before the Good Friday plans, point the candle, crying cut, including:

  "tears do not wash the home country resentment, a moving and sad predicament a few worthy! Even though past and present no filial, when there are long days outside song!"

  - as much a ritual of blood and tears these ZM song "sacrifice the parent> poem written on paper, his heart is in fact desperate thin Qiongyin have not heard, but, somewhere, has to the gods He predicted the issue: "When there is a long song day outside!"


To cemetery

  cemetery is still a silence, only the dead will not disturb his heart sinking, hopeless. He quietly walked Beilin, have no desire to read all the sentences have been hot were cold and stiff under the bodhi tree has long been a poet.

  He went to a non-word Beiqian slumped, staring for a long time, and finally write the final inscription:

  "in this civilization, desert, front, only death, death, is hope."

- Yuan Zhiming Paris 1990 "a small yellow flower"

Loss of religious

Any religious people, will be eager to search for religious piety and meet some people to penance, Masquerade, fasting and other methods to show their loyalty and faith seriously. Unfortunately, such religious ethics, who often become a tool for the pursuit of vanity, anti make life lost.

God reprove Israel bias, that they tried to pursue only the appearance of piety and satisfy their vanity, have been lost in their own religion. God requires that they seek is simple, real and love life; is compassion there is need to treat people fairly, to replace the vicious words of gentle words, in recognition of God's goodness in life. This is the way religion should be, to the glory of God to lead his life.

Today, we may not have the people of Israel had done, but the hypocrisy of religion behind them and lost, but also our circumstances today, but way more subtle, more spiritual knowledge of the packaging, so we lost religion more than they are. You have lost the desire to find her from God? Your desire to light up as the morning light?

What is a law of God? How do people destroy this law?

First, the law of God about which the Holy Spirit is our new law.

Second, it is a covenant between God and Israel. Third, this is awarded to the beginning of creation God's law.
Today, we are against all the laws, you can use a few words to summarize: we have to dedicated, and with all the best of Italy, try to Eros, and to be like Jesus loves us, love each other. The apostle Paul said: "who loves has fulfilled the law." (Note: Romans chapter eight.)

We love so there are two objects. First, we want to heart the love of God. Second, we need to love fellow as himself, the law to include all, and with the words of Jesus, is: "these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets of the Master of all truth." (Note: Ma Pacific Gospel twenty-two chapter forty.)

On the other hand, awarded by the Ten Commandments at Mount Sinai, the first four commandments and obedience to God on the fifth commandment is to obey our parents, the other five is our attitude towards others; not grab someone else's wife, do not steal other people's property, no man lie, not murder, do not hurt people. If you treat others the same way it treats its own, if you love their way to love others, you have to follow these commandments out.

So, we finally can make such a conclusion, the law of God is that we should put God first place in life. He wants us to be His children and love and supple. We need to listen to Him, obey Him and His will no matter what, are willing to accept. This is the law of God in the highest state of law of the Spirit is (Note: The Romans VIII two.)

God on Mount Sinai and wrote down the law enacted, there are many statutes on diet and other provisions, but these laws is basically to the people of Israel. The Bible says the law is the future of these shadow of good things to children (Note: Colossians Chapter II sixteen to seventeen), these achievements to the law in Christ. Christ into us, then we will live out the law to achieve justice. The Spirit of Christ in us, we naturally able to comply with the law.

You can see in the world, the law is basically bad behavior in order to limit the people who, for example: traffic lights, pollution control, punishing murder, kidnapping, theft, fraud, and other evil laws, but With people who love to act, the law exists it is not - there is no law will be bound him, or let him bear the burden, because they can both natural and voluntary implementation of all the law through the Holy Spirit to the public defined requirements.

Since these laws are based on love, when we can not love God or harm to others, we are undermining the law of God. We hurt others - such as theft, adultery, murder, or bear false witness - often from within us, so the law of God with another one of these "not covet your neighbor" of the ban - which is a Item spiritual sin. Jesus said that the idea of a greedy behavior is tantamount to committing adultery, and anger with insulting arrogance if it is equivalent to committing the crimes of murder (Note: Matthew chapters twenty-one to twenty-eight).

Imagine

Dinner in the spring, we teach the young people with light, foam and other materials in the hall into something they thought heaven looks like. These creative young people to use their imagination, "Construction of heaven."

Dinner's theme is "I can only imagine" is from the "pity me" this Christian band's songs are inspired. Our daughter Melissa is responsible for decorating the house church. When I went to see the process of decorating them, she was hanging on the ceiling of stars. Dinner that night, my wife and I heard Melissa's friends singing the theme song, "I can only imagine," reminds us of that distant place ─ ─ heaven.

Of course, we never imagined after only six weeks, Melissa really gone to heaven. Can only imagine what was on the instant, has become a reality.

Jesus talked about heaven, the purpose is for us to be troubled. He said: "Do not your heart be troubled. You believe in God, believe also in me." (John14Chapter1-2Section)

Jesus has prepared for His believers a good place, full of can not imagine there's goodness, light and majesty. There, God watch over all the faithful, one day we will go there. Imagine heaven looks like, let's heart is joy!

Hates his brother is in darkness

Although today's world of advanced technology, more universal education, but humanity can not escape the fact that living in the dark, people are full of hate each other, the world has become more terrible.

Human salvation in Jesus only in order to extricate themselves from the hatred. John tied the darkness and hatred, so that we can see the essence of evil, and he pointed out that the only true light of Christ shine before the dark drive to go. Jesus, the true light is love, there is love there is no hate, the two are not mutually exclusive, so a person with the love of Jesus, we can not hate brothers.

You may also feel some of today's brother, is that you do not want to accept him, do not want to love him, even unwilling to forgive him. There may be significant, including the hearts of the contradictions and struggles, which means that your life has been the lack of God's love. When life is not changed by the love of God, that life is still in the dark, there is hate.

How can I break this drought? Just open your heart, let God love the light illumination, so that you can rekindle the light of life, out of the shadows in the light so that you can accept, forgive, love your brother.

Do not let yourself live in the darkness of hate.

Rest is for the walk longer distances

〖I. Introduction〗

A pastor opened the car for several hours to the mountains vacation cabins, for the three-day holiday, he was filled with hope; to the destination, but only after all the intention that the information and books to read at home, or even Even the Bible did not take. After a while the inner fighting, and finally decided to stay, forget to bring the book to force him to change plans, but finally found his new plan is needed most - a real rest. Angel of the Lord rely under all difficulties of the prophet Elijah said: "Get up and eat! Because your journey is still far away." (Kings 19:7), rest is to walk longer distances, so the rest is to serve God .

〖Second, the value of rest〗

According to the Ten Commandments in the fourth commandment, the Sabbath is also a man of God: "Remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy. Six days you shall labor and do all your work, but the seventh day is the Lord your God Sabbath. The day you and your children, male and female slaves, livestock, and your stranger strangers in town, not for any work items, in six days the LORD made heaven and earth, the sea and one of the things, the seventh day he rested. Therefore the Lord blessed the Sabbath day and made it holy. "that is, God blessed the Sabbath, so one side can remember God on the one hand people a break. What is the value that a rest:

1. Help me renew their strength
Get physical rest is not difficult, really lacking is the emotional and spiritual rest. Can holiday like crop fields as to play a greater function, people need to rest, in exchange for the fruit of change, change into the energy of life.

2. See the goal again
Weekly consumption of our heavy work is not only a lot of energy, and make our vision becomes narrow and short-sighted, while forgetting the immediate value is only a remote target. Temporarily leave the rest to work allows us to see the goal again.

3. The confidence and ability to surge
One pastor's sermons has long been criticized when, in order to improve the quality of preaching, he decided to take two weeks off school to seminary in terms of road class. Class, the professor asked students to write the contents of sermons first few minutes, and came down to talk. The country's best listened to his sermons preaching professor said: "I'm sure you must be a very good speaker." After the pastor had certainly made him rebuild self-confidence, which is suspended from work benefits.

4. Serve warm Update
Carefully planning the rest, even a short time, but also help us to pressure from the monotonous routine to get relief.


〖Three signs〗 need rest

We can not wait until the holidays when exhausted, and the physical fatigue is not the only signal I need a rest, we need to monitor their own pace of life in order to arrange vacations and retreats. The following symptoms signal is the need to rest:

1. Slow
When I no longer feel the feelings of others and the associated signals, as well as other people's needs and expectations of my no longer responsive, that I need to change the forward speed of the sign.

2. Rambling thoughts
When my thoughts become slow, and no more inspiration and creativity, and even favorite activities has always been down-hearted, and sometimes even the general's remarks do not want to participate, that is the rest of the signal.


〖Fourth, adjust the attitude of the rest〗

Temporarily leave the work is not too simple, but is difficult to avoid.

1. Treatment of guilt
Most of the work ethic of people a strong sense of being away from work, they all suffer guilt Mokenaihe of escape. In fact, a way can be used to disperse such guilt, that is: to remind ourselves of how hard work normally, but God is not only allowed, it is ordered people to be on time to rest.

2. The handling of major emergencies
Not in the workplace, the occasional major emergency will happen, however, need to deal with this emergency a little creative, flexible arrangements often have unexpected results.

3. Rest before and after adaptation
Extra work before and after leaving the job is used to prevent problems and errors in the only way, but if they can put aside their work and have a good rest and return to work after a period of adjustment often required to step on the right track, but a return to normal until the pace of work, the rest of the results will be slowly revealed.

〖Fifth, use of rest〗

Comparison of advance planning to achieve the purpose of rest, using vacation patterns and arrangements as follows:

1. Read off
Is the life of all ages can continue to grow the factors, it can be arranged each year in the undisturbed areas (such as rent apartment two weeks), with no fixed work schedule, to enjoy the pleasure of reading.

2. Spiritual Update
Every 3-4 months to arrange a time for spiritual reflection: my family and personal life situation? Serve their own feelings about? The next step in the direction of thinking and the decision must be made. To make this spiritual update to maximize the function of the time, temporarily left the cumbersome routine environment is very important.

3. Arrangements Holidays
Engaged in activities to feel happy is the main objective of vacation, and as children grow, change of lifestyle and pace, leave the way when the adjustment. Arrangements may include sailing holiday, collecting art, beach camping, and even see their parents living overseas.

4. Family life
Some say: Love the composition contains, half belong to history, the other half belongs to intuition, happy family life, covering all of the above. So arrangements can be with the family holiday festivals, such as grandparents birthday. In addition to other holidays, but also try to take advantage of special meetings or to participate in a meeting of it, the way to enjoy leisure and family fun.

Women's fragrance bloom

We talked about modern man's spiritual world, as we need to understand that a woman's needs. Women 's self-awareness and the need to grow, how her family was able to play the role of wife and mother .

We often said, must first take care of their own mother , mother If happy , then the whole family happy. The role of Mother in the family is very important, the role of her mother decided the family atmosphere. If the women aware of their emotions, know that they can continue to grow , adapt themselves , it is a very important thing. Because women have many strengths , these strengths if we can really play out of her , women also feel that her life will not just kids , cooking and cooking it. In fact, God created woman, this woman is really to bring a lot of the joy of the family , not only do these services only. Therefore, the role of women to value their own , or be able to know how to make themselves more to be happy , better able to know that God put you on the family at the social environment inside , in the end what to do, do you really just cook three meals a day ? Many women will have such confusion.

Today, many women and traditional women do not like women in general have the opportunity to education , women in general have the opportunity to work in society , women and men pay the same. Women also go out to work during the day , and then came home at night tired , but also cook the food . So today 's man, especially the need for more understanding of his wife , sharing of family responsibilities with whatever . Women in This society have a look , and look forward women to be wives and mothers . So women will continue to think I need to how to take care of others , how to take care of my husband , my children , but they forgot to take care of ourselves, they are not very familiar with. Now many women are a lot of education, but who is cooking at home , who cook , who care for their children , or women. Mr. many times over there, if so do not pull its weight , but also that it seems to be the bounden duty of women , women have continued to pay, did not accept. Just like our car , the lamp has been lit , and finally the whole of the battery to run out of power , the results of exhausted, walk.

Housewives at home , or even if women have the opportunity to go to work , mental depression is much higher than men . Men in the workplace is to face a lot of pressure on the responsibility of the family is responsible for the relatively small , and this is because the traditional concept of influence. Like most of the parents is now School mother sister will be so if only the mother will be involved in their children 's growth. As a father has no such expectations is the father to go in , as if the whole social environment, expectations that women should be responsible. In fact, God has a special duty to the women of God to pregnant women , children, women are more careful and considerate care of the children well, women are more friendly , social activities, it seems that women do better. Women have some special place, as if in the care of the family , especially in the care of the children seemed to have something different on , does not mean that men do not need to participate .

Speaking as a woman under pressure greater pressure than men . Because she has to face the dual pressures of work and family , she wanted her husband to share with her such pressure ? In fact, women need to learn how to better and her family , her husband, her children how to communicate. Many women have a lot of hats, what is the good wife and mother should have swept all the family things, all things belong to the child should pack. But it is not , should be invited , invited children together. Lot of work will be very guilty about his wife back home , the children do not take good care of the day regarded him in a nanny there, and then be able to see other people with children at home , she felt very envious of , my heart feel very sad . Mr. then we ask to see such things will not go home feeling that men do not have this feeling that he felt was his duty to work . Women in this kind of a double under the expectations of the extent of the confusion .

Relationships are the focus of a great woman , in fact, a woman should not put all her focus has been on her husband and children, in fact, God has given women a lot of potential and talent, Then how can the extent permitted Their potential To play out? This woman will be more cheerful and happier . The role of women are not the only one to take care of the family , the family is very important to take care of things , but in addition to families, as there is little if anything to do, often have been depressed , has been paid , no returns, did not think What are their needs, not take care of yourself . Sometimes to exhaustion, and some people will simply hide alcohol inside, some people watch soap operas on , or there are too many activities to fill their full , but did not think they have a need.

People living is tired..

Many things happened recently, I will collapse, feel oneself live very tired tired! Since the marriage, do not always feel satisfied.

Sometimes I why want to get married? Why would stay at home? Why did god to me so residual cold?

Let me busy all day but no harvest, became not meet, I will complain, why not complain about their origins in noble family? Why not meet the prince? Why so many beautiful things with me...

Your presence the old plan is what

Many people retirement after begin their around the tour. life The more the older the more there is no way to do this plan , how many people that good planning really be achieved in can the number of people? An article reported that the Japanese director level and above , and they have after retirement to do , statistics a little, do less than one percent of the people. And even if do not have the original feeling.

If you are a middle-aged , or just left the campus can think about , the more near the end of that period distance the more important . We Christians are of hope people , getting brighter , closer and there is hope , but if that hope is not a correct understanding and a positive attitude, light that the so-called old is the to travel , to move I like to live Small town , that does not it is yourself trouble Well .

To the old when there are many, many problems , as first these issues detailed in the rows of , again going to spend our old age.

Attachment to eternity - all the about marriage myths

Times of crisis : half of divorced
President Bush in the 2004 to Congress presented State of the Union , there is a project is funding 1.5 billion U.S. dollars , advocacy of marriage of the importance , in order to improve the national face of a marriage crisis, including education, counseling, low-income families marriage and quality.
Why is President Bush so valued citizens of marriage ? According to 2001 the nation statistics from , per thousand population , about eight people to get married. Meanwhile, the divorce statistics, each thousands of people of which , there are four divorced. This shows that the United States divorce rate in up to fifty percent . According to the statistics unit forecast in 2004, if 2.3 million pairs of couples married , of which nearly half will end in divorce.
Experts said that since former President Clinton and Lewinsky affair , to the name of singer Britney only lasted one day marriage , from the traditional long suffering Pili litigation to today cheap quick online divorce , one can see "Sacred marriage " of the concept and quality, has been facing a serious impact.
Encouraging phenomenon is that January 2004 's " Time Magazine " published on marriage and sex a series of articles , referring to marriage counseling professional statistics. 1966 , in the marriage counselor an expert is only eighteen hundred who and four years later in 2001, has increased forty-seven thousand people. It is estimated that these experts each of about counseling more than eight hundred sixty-three thousand pairs of couples.
Although the factions of psychological counselors of the theoretical methods are different, but these statistics have shown that : Although husband a busy , wife, lonely unhappy marriages , there are numerous , but they do not want separation. They are willing to re- home. This explains not a happy marriage , there are repair opportunities and methods of .
I therefore invited three couples to of someone who has the identity to talk about their own marriage experiences, and feelings and experience. Also invited the three marriage and family aspects of counselors , from the sources of stress , communication principles, of men and women the role , and reconstruction of the secret four perspectives , about how to improve marriage. They are:
Zhan Wang , Liu Meilin : church pastor , wife , engaged in family counseling and has two girls and one son.
Zhuang Guangzhen : with the government health care programs , child , adolescent and family marriage therapy counseling for years.
Chih-Cheng Chen , Chen Dechun : church pastor , wife , engaged in family counseling , education two sons.
Wang Yue , Hao -tung : of marriage ten year and a half , education of a child .
Xu , Zhuang Weiling : of marriage twenty-three years .
Yuan Zhengqing , Ho the Wen : of marriage Forty years , a son and daughter have been married .

Pressure on the top of the head: inner shadow re-
a music and Hao Tong, kids are one year old , to help them with children grandma grandpa return home , grandparents are not a visa out. At that time a music has been degree, find work , Hao -tung also by a doctor qualifying examination , was at home preparing thesis . the house Take care of cleaning the original is grandpa grandma bear , they go after the Haotong Cheng Tam . Hao Tong tiring is also quite lonely .
Even worse, she found and sometimes a happy home from work do not greet her cry, directly and go to it . She felt no longer be attention and care , was very frustrated, encountered some small things can easily get angry, quarrel . Results noisy again hurt once the feelings of Hao -tung despair to think : "recognize it, the original feeling so good , and now also the result of marriage is too disappointing . " a Music is feeling of home, just like graves .
Xu and Wei Ling is a marriage get along . Wei Ling 's parents the first by a in Taiwan look at visit young couple , the Xu are not used family more than two people. And Wei Ling is the eldest , family relationships very close , parents naturally stand her daughter's point of view, observing their marriage, the conflict started that way .
How to communicate : to like the station junction
Psychologists Zhuang Guangzhen that couples fight is a natural phenomenon, because people are not perfect. Usually give birth to first child , between husband and wife the tension the pressure to gradually increase . Some people say that the kids can avoid the argument , in fact, buried child care, but an escape , to divert attention a way . If you the couple normally pay no attention to to establish good relations , such as children grow up away from home , but spend a higher price to restore the marital relationship .
the conflict Many reasons for , but if summarized one of the reasons , is " couples of each other a hypothetical . " her husband assumed He support the family, has been doing to his family responsibilities. For his wife , but that the husband should meet her emotions, to understand her fantasies, but to help with raising children .
When these assumptions and facts out of time , people from the despair into anger. Although they do not intend to hurt each other , but the heart by the injury, grievances to into angry shouting. Whatever the outcome , is a lose-lose , and a vicious cycle.
Therefore, the Zhuang Guangzhen suggested between husband and wife to learn patience to listen to each other speech. Do not predict , do not interrupt ; response, you can repeat to each other about it, and temporarily made any comment . A lot of misunderstandings , it is because not listening to or predict the other side wanted to say , and , or eager to refute. of communication Principles , to as stand the cross blocks, stop, listen, watch .
In addition , the best fixed- schedule appointments, a month or a week once , whether to eat or watch movies , etc. , can increase feelings. However, this should be by prior arrangement , not a temporary decision. And dating talk about issues, just alone together enjoy a good time .
Liu Meilin wife said that if no time is often a date , you can also take of daily life a moment . She treasured every day and with Mr. time to eat breakfast . They used this time with the reading of passages , and then for our children, for the day in personal prayer . Although not candlelight dinner as romantic , but it is section a separate , quiet together valuable time .
Chen Dechun wife will remind you that between people of communication there are five levels :
The first level is a greeting , such as: "How are you ? " The second level on the mentioned facts, but without comments , for example: "Today was very cold . " to the third level , they begin to express their views : "Today true Cold, this is probably the the past decade coldest year in . "and to the words to add feelings of when to enter the fourth dimension : the " today cold die , I really hate . " Finally, a level, then, for the mentioned inner Feelings , such as: "I'm really scared, worried that " a class of topics.
Basically , the more down level , the more will talk it out . Chen Dechun wife suggested that between husband and wife sometimes, not to enter the fourth dimension , the best sake of discussion . because a Emotional involvement husband and wife may be hard to calmly and carefully talk about things . For example, a child home from school did not immediately do their homework, Mr. and let him play , Mrs. can tell , Mr. : " If you let the children play first , so he had enough , your heart is not easy to calm down , homework in this case can not write well . "Instead of saying : "You are lazy , call your control child regardless of ! "
Criticism is the fuse , because the criticisms are self-centered , feel that others do not . people being criticized After will feel slighted , and self-defense , so that love is reduced. Between husband and wife may suggest , but do not forget proposal to Care .

　　of men and women The role : as different?

Equal but are different
Generally speaking , men pay more attention to visual stimuli , a woman attention to who for her enthusiastic the people. Men to work in Ability of evaluation self- , a woman has to rely on of love the relationship to maintain self-image . This is why, when the marriage hit the rocks , the women would be more active, positive participation in family talks, or seek counseling.
Zhanhong Mu opinion, men few seek marriage counseling because , first, I am sorry that their family situation, also , that the cause is more important, house disgruntled is small , it does not deal with , over a period of time will be good. There are cultural influences .
China's traditional culture does not encourage men to put too much thought in the family, can maintain a decent the situation enough. And the cause can not be so , but the family can wait. Therefore, men seek family counseling to attitude more passive .
However, due to social changes , women's level of education generally increase capacity gradually by society affirmed . status of women Higher forced man attitude adjustment .
Zhanhong Mu opinion, men and woman the status of , should be equal , there is no conflict , but the roles are different. the roles of Is the difference between of human society, natural the existence phenomena, such as the two brothers play , in order to grab toys and fighting, parents is not because they both have equal status assumed they played to see who win a will come to fight to toy . parents Most of brother said: "You are my brother , how does not love his brother ? " and turned to his brother, said: "He was my brother , how can disrespect my brother ? "
Such advice the child sounds like did not solve the problem , the child may feel , my parents even such a simple question can not solve . Why? Because the brothers Are equal , but they are different. A Early, A Younger , their role is not the same . Similarly, in human society , the roles are different and the of two people nature of life are equal, there is no conflict.
of men and women Life essence are equal. The last man, should not be by for any reason suppressed his wife , unfair to women . But at the same time , today's men and should not be because of education, occupation or salary changes, and have respect for women , because in such a motive , do not really respect women.
a man must From the of love perspective of think , no matter what the decision, to think his wife will think , what kind of feelings, she wishes what , rather than a result of his wife objective as changes in , and increase her value. man's This attitude adjustment is necessary , must also from this point of view be adjusted .

Completely accepted
Jim Pastor , wife in the United States graduate school when the awareness of marriage, Jane wife felt closest , the husband often told her what he was thinking . Whether happy or sad, very frankly .
She is also very grateful for husband of her the care . I remember one time she Mr. Xiang complained about others , sir , and do not criticize her , but with her reading the Bible and explain the Word of God , let her think she is not being mind, was not considered a villain.
Zhan pastor with the United States Lin is trust, respect , and he said: "The United States and Lin know my personality , she was always persuade me. I also found the way she talks , than ever wiser , more sincere. so many years, I Understand her family, I have had significant help, so I accept the speed more quickly . "
Another husband and wife, Yuan Zhengqing uncle , and HE Wenbo mother , but also for study with the university of marriage . Their marriage with the changes in society has become increasingly consolidated. Yuanbo Mu recalls: " in 1968 During the Cultural Revolution , he was counter- charges by schools severely dealt with , by the masses criticism after was captured. then eldest eleven -year-old daughter was six years old. I am a teacher , but was As counter-revolutionary families. Children are also Discrimination , mental under great pressure . so long as hear the open criticism will radio speakers sound of , our whole family for nervous was very .
"Later not evidence to convict him to let him go home. next four years , we often had their homes searched , and he still denounced supervision, labor reform , to do the dirty work to live. our marriage was Severe test strict at the time working propaganda team advised me to divorce him . I did not know you. because I believe he is not a bad person , mind never leaving him the idea of . "
Yuan Bobo was imprisoned , the then leaders and around the people to force the Yuan Bomu report him . Yuan Bomu to write big-character poster , revealed that he overheard the Soviet Union a radio . Yuan Bobo looked posters very angry. He said: " I think my wife should not expose me. And this poster sign out to after the more to someone else reason to force me , fight me. get home , my heart has never forgiven her, and sometimes they take things Repeat it.
" I later realized that her at the time condition , do not expose me is very difficult. this is not her fault , but the prevailing political pressures. she if you do not expose was off them , the children how to do ? When I figured out to not blame her. In fact, she is both my wife , even if she is really doing something wrong , I should forgive her. If I still can not forgive her, that is my love for her is not enough. In particular, believed in the Lord then, should have a sacrificial love. I if this do can not forgive her, to talk about and gave himself love ? "
Yes, real forgiveness , not obliterate the memory , but the real acceptance , no need to talk about conditions.

　　Reconstruction of the tips : Tango Trilogy

The correct order
Zhanhong Mu division, the United States Lin wife consistent with convinced , from the Bible , " Genesis , "the record shows between people no relationship , than husband and wife closer .
Therefore, of life the order should be God first , spouse second, again is the children. But overall , the difference is no conflict . Because the heart of God, human love and strength to life, and relationships are forever ; for a spouse , only children.

Common Share
Today's mass media such as radio, television, film , constantly rendering single parents, as single women strong . Some popular TV series , again father carved into the arrogant , or lost three forget the four confused people. These the image of are the next generation have a false idea that the parents the feelings of does not need any communication , but also with what does not .
According to psychologists Zhuangguang Zhen the analysis of , parents feeling bad, will bring children a wide range of negative effects:
1 , the lack of security. grow up Although a family , but do not trust anyone.
2, the marriage is not optimistic.
3, young children, will be considered to be their own good, the parents quarrel . If the parents because of quarrel neglect their children , some children will go to do bad things , so that parents attention to himself.
4, marital relations is not good, usually on boys a greater impact . the girl More likely to find the object tell , or by writing, painting relieve . But the boys tend to suppress , in particular to adolescence , in dealing with emotions and relationships , is not correct learning objects , easy to confuse even have the wrong impression , and will not know how to face his wife's emotions.
In general , the child's sense of security establishment of in the family harmony on the . Mother is a son to see the first woman , how she treated her husband to provide his son the future to treat his wife look forward to ; Similarly, the father towards her mother 's attitude , also affected his daughter on men the views of and marriage expectations.
Chen pastor, wife agree, to be raising my child succeed, the best way is by example. In addition to they have to marriage, a happy give children a warm family , the parents take a moment to and children talk about life , faith or morals , or and the whole family sit together talk , you can create a good family atmosphere.
from the heart Start
a happy Believe that marriage the reconstruction of depends on spiritual renewal , that is, change their mind. This change , to of faith rebuild on the basis is possible .
Because the truth is, marriage is two there are disadvantages of people the most recent from exposure to is the human the most original face of , appears in each other front of . Self-centeredness is the an unhappy marriage chief culprit in , only faith can be changed. On the other hand , if there is no faith, life, no goal, in life no direction , there is no mind real peace of , no real luck.
For example, Hao Tong , and she often " motto "in the words of self- reminder: the "wisdom of the woman , an house ; foolish woman , personally destroyed . " When conflict occurs, her with these words to face Yes, to control self tongue .
Wei Ling for frail , often out of the hospital . she said Xu Lixin Lord , learn to take care of her. When she was ill, Xu will , before leaving, left a note at the bedside to remind her not to forget to take medicine, soup. When Wei Ling, the father was ill, Xu the family managed well , to Wei- Ling relieved take care of his father.
Yuan Bobo previously thought , a couple from different families , character, point of view are not the same , bear with me also , but to be patiently endured, is very painful .
Later, he slowly realized that , in order to insist on , we must first its own position put right, not to themselves as the center . He said: " If always see each other this does not there is not good, is to see their great, see each other less to . If I understand his and his wife are being made to know that we both are the same, should each other rely on Relationship. For example, my wife of Wen patience slow , more carefully , I am more rough impatient , and I see her to do things how so slow to angry with her .
"But she doing slow has her reasons for , I do not know her the reasons for to always feel she was wrong. In fact, this is not her right , but I was wrong.
" What's more, his I just call her , we could help her do this time is not on the province out?
"But to do this degree , but had to realize God made her that , you what good intentions ? When I later learned that his quick temper not only interpersonal to go wrong , to the body but also damage . I understand that God wants through Over his wife to help me, altered, my impatient personality. When I realized this, I am willing to gradually change , change not feel pain . "
Couple together To synchronize notes. Families, is couples learn to love and cooperation a basic place.

in the mirror Reflection : the Clouds parties see at
U.S. Lin wife that even if the original marriage motivation for , not love and commitment , as long as willing to repent and remove before the errors state of mind , you can still save the marriage . for marital conflict The common reasons is that they have reserves to pay, have to each other fully cooperate with . If you change this mentality , both sides determined to be a good spouse, fear of God , admit your mistakes , ask God to forgive , can start over , to be a good wife or husband.
Because marriage is God created the most intimate relationship men and women with can experience of life the beauty and wonder . And husband and wife role of the many of the complementary , the husband is the leader, his wife is to be a leader ; wife if a helper , a husband is being helped who , with each other there are interactive relationship . Like the head and body , there should be very clear sense of unity . This is two people through thick and thin , with feelings , mutual trust and depend on each other 's good experiences.
Marriage as marriage and family therapist , Mo Silan was professor (Dr. Ron Moslener) said: "Marriage is a mirror , one can marriage understand their own . you're complaining about the other side of the process, find themselves not how good ; you from enjoy each other's words and deeds , see their own needs. "

The psychological effect ", "empathy

Love and marriage , any more than human relations are more likely cause of these latent "psychological buttons . " An unconscious act of the spouse , or a careless words are enough to bring us back to the past, the emotional state of those painful experiences , as if looking to return , and in the subconscious mistake , carelessness led us to the current old Emotional experience that the past has hurt us, bring us suffering, this is the psychology called " Empathy "(transference) phenomenon .

So he wanted to transform our spouses , I hope these past painful experiences no longer occur . Also expect our spouses to become perfect fantasy parents, spouses , as required , like a loving God completely , to meet all our needs, heal the psychological trauma we have all . If the spouse can not, once again let us down , old passions intertwined , they create new , or more intense "psychological buttons . "

In accordance with human nature , can not love enemies . In particular, when wounded , let alone the most intimate and the most hateful spouse , any sweetness . Usually our response is accused of ? point accusation), criticism (criticism), contempt (contempt), the Cold War (stone-walling), fight back , hurt each other, to set each other to death . No wonder most of the couples at this time , even touch each other feel sick , can never expect to have sexual gratification of the sexual relationship.

The mood is very low.

Many things happened in recent home, especially the husband, we just got married within two months, the big push things will come, I tired of killing, really want to get married, too much trouble. Don't know what is the reason? Because of his stupid stupid or husband, I really don't understand. He will be cheated. But is the best of friends cheat him.

They are in the business of the partnership, good relations, also have no, don't know why he would betray his friend. My husband's all stolen.

Friends really so unreliable? Why is the world has become so that everyone only money, a flash disown people become so isn't human.

When the end of the world?

People are living in operations, although sometimes there are so many happy, but that is very short.
The world is a big prison, each one of us are sinners, and I like the big, fled to heaven to prison, that is our eternal kingdom.

The world knows that is the end of the world, but just don't know what is to come. But I believe that the end of the world is coming. O god, the end of the world, please take your world, take your art!

Discipline and communication

When the children to adolescence , many parents will find that one day it can not be with their children two things . So, how can there be opportunities to learn , to teach children what ?

Do not communicate with their children , there is no opportunity to understand them, of course it can not be taught . For this reason, when children are young , parents should establish the basis for communication ; such children grow up , they have been accustomed to have something with their parents , said parents are not afraid to communicate .

Small children can not speak , through the eyes and the contact between parent-child communication . Other children will speak, they put their parents as role models , learn how to express , to speak . If the big people always say "thank you" , they will often say so ; If adults are always vulgar loud, abusive language will be loud . Model as a child , parents should review the desirability of their tone words , or quickly improved .

Like to talk with their parents want a child , the most important is that parents do not any of the following acts:

1, brutally interrupted

Children not finish, the first break , their thoughts also will be truncated. Again, he does notOpeningParents have known that he would like to say what he really did not need to say anything . Keep up the child to maintain good communication state , the most important thing is to listen more talk less , give children the opportunity to speak , his attentive and observation.

2 , mock innocent children

Young children , thought the natural immature , naive to speak understandable . If parents laugh at their childish innocence , so that it feels awkward , since not dareOpeningThe . Thin-skinned child, would be angry after being made fun of , or even hatred , that this would not re-Opening.

3OpeningThe lesson

Chatting with the children often teach them to criticize their choice of words , each case so that they , as the chat as Juela , Heart of fear, would not take the initiative to communicate with their parents .

4 , the children compared with others

Often the child to him, and praise other people's children , believing that this would encourage children to follow the others, in fact backfire . Kids hate my parents so , than people than the dead . To accept their children as a direct point out their strengths , and be commended , this would produce encouraging .

If you avoid the above points , I believe that the child would be happy to chat with their parents ; have the opportunity to chat , nature can communicate , promote mutual understanding. Family can have something to tell the story , said that past , talked about the child childhood anecdotes , memories of their parents fall in love wonderful things , not only to attract children, also increased the joy .

By 2010, with tears in writing "goodbye"

Dead of the night the

Work is also endless

But to see those words

Heart can not calm the pain was still so

Chaotic thoughts

Overtime? Do not want to do anything the

Think while finishing thoughts

God knows helpless and chaotic

Who 's fault this time

Of time , or destined

Not just tear across the face

More importantly, some emotion in his heart was enlarged and deepened the ...

Friends always say that we believe is very beautiful rainbow after the rain

Tears could not stop knocking the front of a computer desk keyboard

Do not know is moved or envy or hate , or heartbreak

Why Why forehead shaking big question mark emerging

Ridiculous is their own dreams woven by the chaotic pace of their own happiness

The future of so many wonderful moments of beauty

But those who arrived in the text word or two

Soul has been touched a nerve

Timid people retarded innocent people who were simple-minded

Do not keep feeling the weakness of the real ice acid

Found no one to remember no one to care for Dian

Willing to do you need to struggle again

Cold air

I am relieved to learn

His mind is not on the no longer Distressed

When those dazzling eyes blinking in the text

All in all another good were painted with full stop forcing

God lied to me

God you fail to make you learn humility

You cheated in order to increase your wisdom

Hurt you is to make you stronger

You wronged your personality to life experiences

You hit is to remind you of the disadvantages

You lose is to give you and teach you to cherish
A pain to make you realize

Let your trip is to strengthen your legs

Reality , even cruel, but God is always merciful God always hello

This moment began to doubt

No longer believe that God can not these so-called good intentions

If more attention

How would let me by so many ups and downs so many sad so many unfeeling

God smiled at me I see you moving in

I watched into a laugh

I would also like to let you down in the heart of the guilt

God

You know

You are my dependent

Why should I give up the expense of

Can you tell me

What can I expect you

Tell me how to do what to do should

World is so big

I am so small

So many stories

I vividly supporting interpretation to

Hearts silently tangle

Finally Panlai the

darling love family friendship

A turn around easily vanish

Desperately want to take what

But always gently smiled , let go

At the time

Have a voice in the ring

God heard the voice of my cry you

Finally made up his mind

Scattered light a few do not understand

Do not care goodbye

Approaching the Mind - How to preach the gospel to the mainland

1 body mass is more important than explain in words
1 . Body mass and explain in words

  Education in ancient China, there is a basic principle: Example is better than precept . Here the so-called education , mainly refers to teaching people how to do a real person. Lewis (CS Lewis) wrote: old education is a heritage : to teach people the truth in life to another person; modern education is merely a propaganda .

  Here, we see the Western Education in the Ancient one thing in common : that is to help students become a real person , as the core of education and the highest goal. In the process of achieving this goal , the teacher 's own example , his character , personality, and even manners are very important . That is what he is really the person on the best note .

  Education thought of people from the faith , think of the gospel "preaching " the word . "Biography" in addition to " explain in words "(including "T Biography " ) , but also must have a "body mass ": the life of the Road, shown , with my Christian life to manifest the life of our Lord Jesus Christ . Preach the gospel to the people , especially to those familiar with their own people the gospel , the "body mass " more often than " persuasion " is more important. If a hard mass of Christians , is not the exercise of his , that he was preaching , who would dare to believe it?

  body mass is more important than explain in words , this is the basic principle of the gospel .


2 . We Chinese

  " listen to his words and deeds , "which is a Chinese saying goes , who is also the view of ordinary people a way to make friends . Focus on practice , especially practice in life , it is the Chinese people 's national identity. No matter how you put it clearly and logically , Chinese people focus or how the person you like : a good or bad ?

  Lin Yutang once observed : "In fact, China has never been a result of Christian doctrine and the Chinese people believe in religion, because a Christian and had close personal contact , while the Christian is to abide by Christ to love one another The lessons . " cast aside the extreme terms of individual forests , such as "never " , in general , his observation is very pertinent . He added: " see a practice of Christ 's mercy , and the concern of every individual Christian, the Christian will often lead me to close a bit . there is no doctrine of unilateral , can be as effective as it unilaterally . " (Note 1 )
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  on the Mainland Chinese must not forget that people from the mainland for the big, or false , empty , already had enough . They are eager to personally experienced is real love . The reason why some of my friends on the Christian Gospel is offensive , perhaps because he thought he knew that some Christians not very good , not as good as him .


3 . Act worthy of the Lord

  What is the body mass ? Body mass is through their own how to live, how to treat people to pass , that is, their whole life to pass , with their own virtue , character and spirituality to pass . In the final analysis it is only two words : the Incarnation .

  I am a what kind of person , I will convey to people what kind of information . Only when my life to share the divinity of God , I can show the world that I believe God , the God of what kind of ; I shared how much , how much can be spread .

  Paul , " Colossians , " said: "Let you in on all spiritual wisdom and understanding , filled with the knowledge of God , that ye walk worthy of the Lord and delight in all the good work , and increasing the The knowledge of God . " ( "West" 1:9-10 )

  " walk worthy of the Lord , " the eight Chinese characters , is the best overview of body mass .

  body mass through the character to speak . Christian character , is the Holy Spirit in the Christian life to bear good fruit , its characteristics such as humility , love, joy , peace, patience , kindness, goodness , faithfulness, gentleness , temperance , etc. , a Christian If the character of these features , people can in his life , to see that living the Gospel , that Jesus himself .

  body mass propagation in daily life .

  body mass of the most basic site is in marriage , family and relatives get along in life . When we together with their families , if we let people see we love each other and see the peace, joy and satisfaction , and we let them see the gospel .

  basic place to another at work . Within hours , how I work , how to get along with colleagues as well as upper and lower levels , are preaching a certain message. The question is what kind of information from the message of Jesus , or from any other local information .

  the cultural life of body mass is a basic site : honor God , this is the goal. When the spirit of Christ to participate in social life, cultural life , we preach Jesus Christ is the .

  Teresa has a very beautiful words to explain what is body mass :

  you have to let others see Jesus in you ,

  let them see how you pray and pray ,

  let them see you how to live a holy life,

  let them see how you get along with their families ,

  let others see your family have peace .

  When people see what you do afterwards , you can face them,

  then said: " This is the road . "

  you from life and experience, preach the message of Christ . (Note 2 )

Good reason for aging

Two days ago, I met former colleagues working in the bank , I have not seen him for ten years , although this is not a very long time , but he 's a blond , almost completely turned dark gray . I am sure he is also aware that , in no time to change my hair color before gradually sparse . I have to put on reading glasses , can see the smaller characters .

We do not know one article of the 70th Psalm of age , but we know that he felt the impact of old age , perhaps health problems or physical deterioration , is the one he mentioned trouble .

This Psalm also hinted that his side was therefore take the opportunity to take advantage of him , even threatened to harm him. He was tentative , that his own life and apathy , only worry and pain, and his life has been meaningless.

Although he saw himself becoming more " old white ", but the power of God inspired him , gave him new energy . Poet rediscovered the meaning of life - the next generation need to listen to a generation of encouragement and testimony . They need to know that God's salvation and redemption capabilities never delay , never destroy , never fade , are lasting new, and often with us , and that comfort us again and again .

Doing Things The Right Way Is A Very Effective Way To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back!

You might just think that if you play on your ex's sympathy and beg and plead with her to take you back again that it will work. Well, how wrong you are! This will have exactly the opposite effect, believe me. She wants a strong, mature man in her life, and you will come across as a weak, pathetic idiot - not the kind of person she needs in her life, so you will NOT get your ex girlfriend back this way!

You need to impress upon her that you are the kind of guy that she can depend on and lean on if necessary, so change your attitude and give her what she wants. Be a man and admit to any mistakes you have made, and, above all, apologize for them as well - it takes guts to do this, and she'll admire you for it!

So, even though you may be nervous, make that call to her. When she answers, apologize immediately for hurting her and making her angry. Tell her that you know exactly what you did that caused the break up and that you plan to fix these mistakes right now.

Also tell her that you respect her wishes to end the relationship, and that you hope she will be happy. End the call by saying that you are only doing this because you care so much about her, and will do absolutely anything, even stay away from her, as long as it makes her happy.

Now you might think that you have just spoilt your last chance to get your ex girlfriend back, but believe me it will work wonders in bringing the two of you together again! She will be really impressed at how mature you are about the whole thing, and will also realize how strong and manly you are. In short, it will get her thinking of you a lot in a more positive way, and will possibly get her thinking about getting back with you as well.

Knowing that you are willing to give her up completely to ensure that she I happy, will more than likely get her thinking that being in a relationship with you is not so bad after all, and could result in you getting your ex girlfriend back.

Streams in the Desert

" By faith Abraham , when he was called , obeyed to go out on , to receive for a place to go , he went out, did not know where to go . " ( to 11:8 )

This is not by sight confidence. All with seeing , and it is not faith , but with reason. Ships across the Atlantic , is also in line with the principles of faith . We can not see what channels the sea , the coast could see what we have been able one day a day paddling in the chart on label . When the ship several miles before the trip , we 'll know immediately where we have to .

How to measure but we draw our trip for? His owner took our daily measurement devices eyes to heaven, through the sun to the provisions of his trip . He is the light through the sky - not on the floor of the light - to navigation .

This confidence is also sailing - the eyes to heaven, by God's light; Although not see the routes , lighthouses , or channels . Many times, the pace of confidence seems to pulling us into the darkness and evil , but God opened the way , middle of the night turned into dawn . Let us stop today it forward - not because of that , but because of the trust . - translated from " Heaven upon Earth "(Days of Heaven upon Earth)

Many of us often first see the distance , would the action and . Can we grow in Christ do ? Faith, hope , love, is not as long as cooked apples picked from the tree 's . Genesis chapter 1 , " first " followed by saying "God . " God is Almighty , God not only led the people that help themselves , God lead that he could not help themselves . Wholeheartedly rely on Him as long as it wants you .

Waiting on God , than with their feet more quickly arrive at our journey 's end .

God is scrutinize

"I sat down , I got up , you know , you know my thoughts from far away , I walk on the road , I lie down , you are scrutinized , as you know all that I have the line . " (Psalm 139:2 - 3)

God is not some distant , indifferent to us , without attention , ignore , despite our own way , no, he has been in the searcher us trials we know that all our ideas and words and deeds . So we at any time , place, not alone , with no one in , no one pay attention to concern us, there is an invisible God, has been around in our front , surround us, even in our hands Body (verse 139:5 ) .


Why is this ? It can only say that he loved us, otherwise we will not be so concerned with us. If you hate one person from his farther, the better , if , and none of their business , they do not want to pay attention to all his , but the sight of God our treasure for the respect , such as their children , he will not abandon us, nor forsake We ( to 13:5 ), he did look we are out of his love, he would like us to be completely good degree, please Him , to be his glory , to more blessing to us, reward us .

He conceived the idea to us more grains of sand , are extremely valuable ( poetry 139:17,18 ) . When we understand his ideas, to discuss his joy , so that he who searches test , good to see no evil in their own inside and let him lead us to walk the road of eternal life (verse 139:23,24 ) .

Curious coincidence

Carefully observe the folk belief , you will find many contradictions . Most people who worship , but also ghosts , July Purdue attributed to the ghosts , does that mean to the family of God 's divine faith, not on the table ? Doubt the capacity of the gods are inadequate?It becomes necessary to please the ghosts and ask Him to let you have a horse . 

But for thousands of years, God of gods seem indifferent to the table , never protest . Since the gods and ghosts can coexist , and even compromise , how to distinguish between good and evil do so ? Good and evil can live in peace , it means no good and evil divided , failed to distinguish it not that < is white , and also the gangster > .Like the Bible says: " This is not surprising , because even Satan also pretended an angel of light . " ( Corinthians 11 : 14)
Since Heibailiangdao without distinction , it means they are achieving the same by a boss < Satan > management command in the background . We want to know < Satan > is the leader of this power of darkness , < Satan > has led one-third of the angels , and followed it to betray God, this one third of the betrayal of the angel, as Satan 's army and the henchmen in the country , located in the land , Sea, and air to rule over the people .They confuse people dedicated to create disturbances , tried their best people to join the ranks of betrayal , to increase the country's forces of Satan . 


Folk taboo is through the people to Satan < fear > , to achieve the purpose of jurisdiction controller . It would appear that civil so-called ghosts , but by Satan to take advantage of , they continue to manufacture red evil , evil , pain, anxiety , hatred , Kue 's event , as people < fear > , but also continuously develop new rules , rituals ,Taboo , to rescue people .
Keep folk taboo , is to in order to avoid danger, are disappearing disaster solution distress purposes. Do not know this series of events are orchestrated out of Satan . Is it problem to trip people , scare people , as people scared scared . Then, is it to save those who would appear to man to solve the problem .Purpose of convincing it, succumb to its power . 

I have the time to understand the field , a brother living in the house, and saw the window of his home improvement is a new type air-conditioning , easy to read and asked : "What brand of air conditioners ? "he replied: " What do you want brand , the factory What make stickers to sell you. " I thought , wow ! Brilliant idea ! Was so powerful , as long as you like , I can sell out the products , this is not exactly a brilliant idea today Satan used it? As long as one can isolate and true God , the other you have to man , woman, old, young, of heaven , earth, mountains and animals , the sea the earth , what god , Satan can meet you . Therefore, Satan does not care what the names of those called gods , history how ?What matters is that Satan through these channels , it can expand its sales force . 

Heaven , only Jesus as the Lamb of human sin , was crucified , bloody death for the crime, pay the man was of retribution - < "Death of the cost , so Why can not observe the Christian folk taboo , because Jesus has For us to win the war , through the blood of Jesus Christ , let us all from Satan 's bondage to be released , as the Bible says : " the children share in flesh and blood , He also himself likewise took flesh and blood, SpecialThat through death he might destroy him that the power of death , that is, the devil , and to release those who through fear of death as a servant of the people . "( Hebrews 2 :14- 15).

        You can do prayer (Prayer is talking with God ):
"Dear God, Thank you Jesus Christ, only begotten son (Jesus - Savior of the meaning ) ( Christ - the meaning of monarchy ) has given me and for my died on the cross for my resurrection . Saviour Jesus, ah ! I need you, now I open the gate to receive your as my Savior and seek your pardon , I committed many mistakes in life , many crimes, and to play my old curse brought about by fate . now RequestGave me new life and new destiny , so I became children of God. Holy Name of Jesus . Amen ( Amen means sincerely wish ) "